Reaching an aesthetic goal means sh*t without the mental work

I can tell you whole heartily that getting your “dream” body won’t mean sh*t unless you work on your mindset too.

Why?

After getting myself into its best ever physical look for the goal I had (I will discuss this soon) 3 times over I still judged myself, I still questioned my looks. 3 preps for the WBFF stage, each time improving physically on the time prior but also each time improving mentally and emotionally.

As I look through these photos from my latest show in October I barely recognise myself, I am in awe of the condition that I got my body. Yet I also remember how I felt taking some of these photos, “am I ready” “I still have too much body fat” (like ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!) “I am so blocky” etc etc

Now I want to touch here on what a “dream” body is because honesty this is so subjective. My dream body is not what yours is, yours is not what your sisters and your sisters is not what her friends is. How you want to your body to look is based on your lifestyle, your goals and your mind.

The perspective of a dream body is relative person to person but it also starts and ends in your mind.

Because as I mentioned above each time I prepped I got myself into the best physical condition of my life, based on my perspective, yet each time I still had moments where I battled with body image.

Each time I improved my relationship with my body and had less negative talk but it was still there.

During my last prep and the last 5 months post comp I have spent a lot of energy on my mind, improving the fitness of my mind and soul.

It wasn’t until about 5kgs heavier than my stage weight a couple of months after comp that I looked in the mirror for the first time in my 32 years and said “I love you” Now 7kgs heavier and I honestly don’t think I could appreciate and respect my body anymore than I do. Because of the work I have done on my mind.

You see its not about what you look like, its about the way you view yourself and that comes from your mind.

It's also about how you feel from the fuel you put in too, put in shit fuel - feel shit - think shit. Put in good fuel - feel great - look great - think great.

That’s why I coach the fitness of your mind, body and soul, cause it all works together.

Eljay x